Monday, November 30, 2009

Monday, October 26, 2009


I haven't posted in a long time. Summer came and things got busy, and then I got really, really lazy. I have been in a funk for the last few months where I have been a pitiful stay at home dad. I haven't been doing my job. I should be fired. Updating this blog is only a small part of what I haven't been doing.

I also have not been bothering to keep up with house work. Not cleaning, not cooking, nothing. I don't know what happened. I have just lost all my motivation. I have not been a good husband, and I have not been a good father. You could take the last 5 months and just throw them away, because I have. I need to get back into living life. I need to stop just watching it go by.

One of the side things about losing motivation is I had lost about 30 pounds. Even while unmotivated I didn't put it back on, until lately. Over the last month I have put back on all the weight I lost. I have been eating whole boxes of cookies, tubs of ice cream, anything that is bad for me when no one is around to see me. I know why, I am looking for the food to change my mood and make me happy. I guess I have some things in my head to work out.

I think I have gotten out of this spiral. I have started eating better and starting next week I will begin jogging. I use to like to run when I was younger. Hopefully this is just the beginning of a healthier me. I have notice my children have been putting on weight with me. That is my fault, and I am ashamed that I have let that happen.

I am trying to be a better dad and husband. It isn't hard. I know what to do to be the best I can be. I need to stop being lazy, get off the couch and do what is best for the family.

Saturday, June 20, 2009

Patio work

We have a brick patio that is falling apart. There is a short retaining wall on one side of it that needs to be replaced. The sand is getting out and that makes the back couple of rows and especially one corner start to sag and get all messed up. Every year I have to pull all the ones that are messed up and put new sand down and try to get the bricks back in level and in the right pattern. Not a huge job, but doing it on a 97 degree day with high humidity was probably a bad time to do it. But at least it is done.

Monday, June 8, 2009

Stay at Home Dad

Wow, I haven't posted in a while. Seemed like nothing that exciting was going on. I guess that is the way that life is sometimes. There are a million things going on, but you get so wrapped up in you life and your family you forget to appreciate everything and notice all the good stuff.

Well summer is here. Me and the kids are spending as much time as possible outside. As a stay at home dad I think it is important that I make the kids be active and busy all the time. I don't want them sitting around inside and watching tv. The rule is no tv until after 5 everyday. It seems like once you turn it on, it is hard to get it back off again.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Basketball question

I help coach my 10 year old's basketball team. She is taller and stronger than any of the other girls by far. Last game she score 14, and shot 7 for 12. Very good shooting percentage. On Saturday though she was 2 for about 20. The other girls just kept on passing her the ball, and she just could not get the shots to drop. It was a different gym than normal and the rims where a little bouncy. No one told the girls they had to pass it to her, and in reality a lot of her shots were off of offensive rebounds. But I started to feel kind of bad for her. The whole team seemed to expect her to win the game, which they eventually lost.

Later on when someone asked her if they won she said no, but very excitedly said that she scored 4 points. Almost like that was more important. I am told at this age it is ok for them to be more proud of their individual accomplishment than if the team won or not. I hope she isn't going to be one of those players who is more worried about her stats than about the team.

Anyone else every have this happen?

Friday, February 13, 2009

No School Friday

It is a four day weekend for the girls. The wife is even taking off today to stay at home. Not sure exactly what we are going to do all day. My oldest needs a poodle skirt for school so I know the wife is going to be spending some time sewing that.

I will probably make this a homework day. Start studying spelling for next week. Amanda has so many things going on during the week, swim two time, basketball practice, and Wu Shu it is hard to find time to get all the homework done. So we use the weekend to get ahead. She doesn't like it, but the reality is that if she doesn't there is just to much going on during the week. We are cutting out Kumon. We were using it for math, but I never saw any real improvement. I think that the 15 minutes that we spend on that a day would be just as good if we used flash cards to practice multiplication and division.

Does anyone else make their kids study on the weekend? How about Kumon, anyone have any luck with it?

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Beautiful day

Yesterday was about 72 degrees and sunny. Actually got to open up the sunroof on the car. Picked up the girls from school and took them straight to swim class which lasted until about 7. Didn't get to enjoy any of the nice weather with them.

Last night was some severe weather. I slept through most of it.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Stay at home dad going out tonight

My oldest daughter has double header basketball games this morning. We are 1 and 1 so far this season. We should have won last weekend, but we only shot 3 for 41. Not a great percentage. That is about all we worked on during practice this week, shooting over and over.

Tonight I will be taking both of my girls to a father-daughter formal dance. Me and Amanda, my oldest, have been going for about 5 years. It will be Paige's second dance with us. The after the dance we go out and have a little desert someplace. I look forward to this every year.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

A Place I Have Been Posting At

I have started posting some articles at a site called It is worth checking out if you get the time. Some pretty good conversations. Kind of like myspace for the over 30 crowd.

Freezing Tuesday

It is Tuesday morning and I am freezing. It was in the mid 50's a couple of day ago and today the high is going to be 20. Part of living in Missouri I guess.

Saturday, January 31, 2009

The weekend

It is Saturday morning. The kids are downstairs watching cartoons and the wife is still asleep, yet another stay at home dad job, let the wife sleep in on the weekends. Amanda has a basketball game this morning and Paige has ballet and gymnastics. Yet another busy morning. When I was a kid it seemed like Saturday morning there was nothing going on. Now the kids seem so busy.

Susan is heading out of town again tomorrow. That make me not only a stay at home dad, it also makes me a single parent, on Super Bowl Sunday. Not that I am a huge football fan, but I do like to watch the Super Bowl. Maybe the kids will want to watch, probably not though. That is why we have two televisions I guess.

Friday, January 30, 2009

Other Duties?

Being a stay at home dad isn't just about taking care of the kids and the house. It is also about taking care of you wife. Mine just got back from being out of town. She had to go to a town with no electricity to help out. She drove a Uhaul there filled with generators. She ended up having to sleep in the Uhaul in the parking lot bacause there was not where else. She got back last night, and is sick, sore and not doing great. I immediately knew what to do. Pull the kids off, get heating pads and put her to bed to rest. I think that stay at home dads have to remember that we need to take care of our spouses just as much if not more than the kids.

This kind of leads me to something else. I am not sure how many other stay at home dads have dealt with this, but I bet almost all of them. Jealousy from our wife. Jealousy that we are able to do something they would like to do, or at least have the opportunity to do. Not sure how to deal with that myself, anyone out there ever have this conversation with their wife?

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Check out Rebel Dad's website

There is a great blog out there for SAHDs by Rebel Dad. If you haven't read it, you should really check it out.

I just finished a pretty good book, The Stay-at-Home Dad Handbook. Worth checking out if you get the chance.

Get back to school!

Kids are back at school. Neither one wanted to go for some reason. It was probably due to the two days of doing nothing that wasn't fun for them. Man I love snow days. I hope they have good memories of snow days like I have from my childhood. Sledding, snowball fights and hot chocolate. My new job as a stay at home dad mean I have to make memories for the kids that they will have for the rest of their lives. Hopefully good memories.

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

No wife tonight

My wife called and she is going to have to go out of town for a couple of days for a work emergency. No problem for a stay at home dad like me. Just means I will wear the kids out and they will want to go to bed early tonight.

Snow day part deux

Another day, another snow day. At least today there is actual snow on the ground and not just a prediction that there will be snow soon. Today will be a lot of sledding, snow ball throwing, and shoveling. Yep, I better shovel the driveway and the sidewalk at some point.

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Boring snow day with no snow

Well not a great snow day. No snow. There is some sleet, but the kids don't really want to play in that. Mainly just a day of watching tv and playing. Too much Pokemon.

Start it up

I have been going to start this blog for a while now, and today is the day. I am finally starting to feel like a stay at home dad. It has been a while coming, but with the closing of my mortgage company I was working for, I am ready to embrace and jump right in.
It is a snow day tody so both of the kids will be home today. I have two, one that is 10 and is in the 4th grade and one that is 4 and in preK. I plan on using this blog to talk about my life as a stay at home dad. I hope someone out there will find what I say interesting and maybe leave me a comment or two. If you to are a stay at home dad to let me know.